A few things about Nubia

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I am a young, vibrant, African American single mother of two beautiful, bright kids (and i'm not saying that because they are mine). We are from New England and recently moved below the Mason-Dixon Line to VA, in order to escape the beastly Northeast winters. Allow me to give you some insight on this blog and how it came to pass. My personality is upbeat & friendly, a definite extrovert. I am a social butterfly, I enjoy spending time with other people (could be because I am an only child? I doubt it). I actually enjoy spending time with others, entertaining my friends and trying out new places to eat and grabbing a drink. I have a insatiable passion for travel and the expertise of meeting and event planning. After spending much time thinking about my next steps, I decided to get back to blogging and start consulting. Why not do what I love! Right? Well, here I am and I am pleased you are hear reading over my adventures.

Sunday, January 30, 2011

"Manifestation of the Gospel"

I'm lying in bed watching Sunday service through www.streamingfaith.com and Bishop Perry starts to preach the sermon, "Manifestation of the Gospel". He begins with saying that the word of God is not just words, however that the Bible is written text of living words that are sharper than any two edge sword. They are living words, stories that have happened and will happen.

The manifestation of the gospel lead to three things...

1: Presentation of his mercy. Psalm 103; speaks of how God forgives and loves us unconditionally despite our sins. So, tell me... Why is it so difficult for you to forgive your fellow man/woman for their mistakes??? We should look deep into ourselves and find forgiveness.

2: Provocation of holy living 1Peter (1:13-5:11), "Do not conform to the evil desires you had when you live in ignorance". Change your life, do better, be self-controlled, and love sincerely from your heart. It's that simple! Living holy (depending on your interpretation) means positive change.

3. Proclamation of his return 1 Thessalonians 4:13 The coming of the Lord I don't think there is much to say about this... Read the scripture.

I wrote about this particular sermon because it pertains to all of us. Live, Love, Laugh...Let go, Let God. I can testify to that! Peace & Blessings.
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Friday, January 28, 2011

Thought I had escaped the maddness!!!!!

So, I've been in Northern, VA for a little over a year and moved here particularly to escape the madness of New England winters. WTH! It's been just as snowy, just as cold and unfortunately, the south does NOT know how to handle a couple of inches of snow! The other day, the weather man broad casted a little wintery mix. Well, to all of our surprise, we got hit with 8.2 inches of wet, heavy snowfall. I was at work thinking about 5 o'clock, hitting the gym, going home, relaxing, you know the typical thoughts. 3 o'clock rolls around and all of a sudden there are broadcast of a winter storm advisory. Thinking the snow may hit overnight, I continued on with my day. 4 o'clock rolls around and looking out of my office window, there is snow EVERYWHERE! Traffic backing up on the highway, etc... 5 o'clock couldn't come around fast enough. I forget about the gym and head to my car so I can get home and out of the snowy mess. Well to my surprise, I should have kept my ass at work and picked up some overtime!

It took me approximately 7 and a half hours, yeah, you heard me... 7 AND A HALF HOURS! to get home! Traffic was at a standstill! Cars were sliding all over the place. The snow was accumulating on the cars faster than you can imagine. I could only see out of my front windshield, snow covered the sides and back windows. People were abandoning their vehicles on the side of the highway, 18 wheeler trucks were trying to come on the exit ramps, only to get stuck. It was HORRIBLE! It literally took me 30 mins at a time to go 2-3 car lengths in front of me. I was tired, hungry, restless and irritable! All I wanted was to eat and to lay down. Thank goodness the kids were safe and with neighbors (in case your wondering).

The whole point is to say WTH! Can mother nature give us a break? Is God that angry with us that he has casted all of these natural disasters upon us to teach us a lesson? Over the past 10 years, there have been too many earthquakes, Tsunami's, heat waves, snow storms, rain storms to count. Killing hundred of thousands of people.

Friday, January 21, 2011

Nobody Greater...

I'm driving on my way home from work today, listening to Praise 104.1 and Vashawn Mitchell's song "Nobody Greater" comes on the radio.  I am sitting in traffic focused on the fact that I wasn't going anywhere but in that moment when most of us would be cursing, a smile comes across my face. Listening to the words "Searched all over, couldn't find nobody... Searched high and low, still couldn't find nobody... Nobody greater, Nobody greater, Nobody Greater than you!" Man, can I tell you I was giving praise in the car. This song says so much to me because for so many years, I longed for a relationship with the Lord and didn't not know where to turn.

I confided in the woman I was dating at the time about my desire to be closer to God. She took me to church, she taught me about God and his graces, she answered questions and if she couldn't answer them, she help to get the answers. With that support and love, I found a church home and started on a journey to be a better woman. It brings joy to my heart and tears to my eyes when I think about where I am now and where I've been. I have made a lot of bad choices in life but God continues to be good to me and my children. I've been blessed beyond measure and it makes me so happy to have a testimony!

Let's get back to me sitting in the car, praising and singing about the Lord... So, the song goes off and something tells me to change the station. Glad I did because BeBe and CeCe Winans "Close to you" was on!Oh My Goodness... If you haven't heard this song, please go to google and pull it up! These particular lyrics speak volumes... "Patient and strong, always, no matter what i face you've been there to see me through. just right (right on) on time, it took a while to see that your love was true." God is an awesome God and it may have taken a while for me to be able to truly understand and speak those word but hear what I say... GOD IS GOOD! Do not waste time harboring negativity, smile more, call someone who may be on your mind to say hello, do a good deed. Try not to just exist in this world, have a purpose.

Peace, Love and Many Blessings


Mood: Loved

Thursday, January 20, 2011

The worst may be over, but now what???

It may be time to accept the facts... move out of your comfort zone, seek refuge or guidance from someone in the same boat as you in order to resolve, reconcile and move on from your situation. See your way out of the negativity, for it has nothing left to offer you. Rebuild trust, seek a better life for yourself because this needs to be done, although you may not meet it with much enthusiasm or confidence. Holding onto resentment, anger and thoughts of what could have been consume ones spirit. It is exhausting! and makes it nearly impossible to live in postive light. Make sure you don't take your previous baggage with you on your pursuit for happiness. You must dump the heartbreak, resentment, tension, dependency or ties that burden you, otherwise you could recreate similar conditions or trade one hardship or bad relationship for another. The worst is over, what you do with it is up to you. Mood: Fearless

Wednesday, January 19, 2011

Catching up...

It's been a minute since my last blog and even though I am sitting up here with my sinuses flaring, my friend Mo has reminded me that I haven't been online in a while. So, let me catch you all up on last weeks outings. This past Friday I had plans to go see Dwele at The Park on 14th, however I cancelled out last minute because I was drained and worn down. This cold started creeping in and taking it's toll but that didn't stop me from hanging out with the ladies on Saturday. Ms. LR and I met up, got our eyebrows done all pretty and  grabbed dinner at Bonefish Grill. We drank Sidecars w/a Mango twist. ate some YUMMY ginger potstickers, fish tacos and grouper burgers. After great convo,  we headed out to Woodbridge to Ladies night at Lady K's house. The ladies an I had a night full of laughs (as always) and I felt good! Mimosa punch, Swedish meatballs, cheese and crackers were the side dishes to all the adult novelties being passed around the room. Cracking jokes about some of the items, laughing at the thought of who?, what?, where? Hell Yeah's and Hell Naw's LMAO! Well, this is a far as i'm going with my weekend because i'm sure none of you want to hear about night sweats, headaches, coughing and mucus. LOL
Mood: Blessed

Friday, January 14, 2011

Zzzzzz... I wish!

Why has it been so hard to fall asleep or stay asleep for that matter? Why do thoughts seep from my subconsious, ready to arose my mind while I am in a state of relaxation? I wonder what is causing these sleepless nights... Making my mornings painful by the time the alarm rings, awakening me from the short amount of hours that I had finally fallen asleep! Ugh! Whatever IT is needs to go back from where IT came and leave me the hell alone! Mood: Frustrated

Tuesday, January 11, 2011

Haters by Maya Angelou

A hater is someone who is jealous and envious and spends all their time trying to make you look small so they can look tall.
They are very negative people to say the least. Nothing is ever good enough!
When you make your mark, you will always attract some haters…
That’s why you have to be careful with whom you share your blessings and your dreams, because some folk can’t handle seeing you blessed…
It’s dangerous to be like somebody else… If God wanted you to be like somebody else, He would have given you what He gave them! Right?
You never know what people have gone through to get what they have…
The problem I have with haters is that they see my glory, but they don’t know my story… If the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence, you can rest assured that the water bill is higher there too! We’ve all got some haters among us! Some people envy you because you can:
a) Have a relationship with God
b) Light up a room when you walk in
c) Start your own business
d) Tell a man/woman to hit the curb (if he/she isn’t about the right thing)
e) Raise your children without both parents being in the home
Haters can’t stand to see you happy. Haters will never want to see you succeed. Most of our haters are people who are supposed to be on our side. How do you handle your undercover haters? You can handle these haters by:
1. Knowing who you are & who your true friends are *(VERY IMPORTANT!!)
2. Having a purpose to your life: Purpose does not mean having a job. You can have a job and still be unfulfilled. A purpose is having a clear sense of what God has called you to be. Your purpose is not defined by what others think about you.
3. By remembering what you have is by divine prerogative and not human manipulation.
Fulfill your dreams! You only have one life to live…when its your time to leave this earth, you want to be able to say, ‘I’ve lived my life and fulfilled my dreams, Now I’m ready to go HOME!
When God gives you favor, you can tell your haters, ‘Don’t look at me…Look at who is in charge of me…’
Don’t worry about it, it’s not your problem, it’s theirs.
Just pray for them, that their life can be as fulfilled as yours! Watch out for Haters…BUT most of all don’t become a HATER!
‘A woman’s heart should be so hidden in Christ that a man should have to seek Him first to find her.’
~Maya Angelou

Untiled

I can't breathe sense of loneliness consumes me
fulfilling every alcove of my being
Perplexed, Bereaved, Ominous
Should I continue...
Tranquil, Complacent, Promised
Deep breaths, cleansing my soul.
Introduction not needed
for I have found a sense of worth,
purpose and contentment.
As I take a moment to reflect,
Where did I lose you?
how did I lose you and why?
Step back, analyze this...
Realizing I never really lost you
I tucked you away to care for others
what I lost wasn't a being but a sense of self-worth.
Feelings of abandonment take over,
wondering why she was never cherished
relinquished, renounced, mislead...
Awe Shit!
Here we go again...
Reassured, Exhilarate, Restored
Admiration in her eyes...
Love, Sadness, Hope. 
Your worst enemy is yourself....
~Nubia 2005

Monday, January 10, 2011

Pe-Eww... HELP!

Some of you may frown, others will think i'm a mess and few will sympathize with me, either way here we go...

In my quest to eat healthier foods, up my fiber and lower my calorie intake I  notice I am now gassy and bloated! Yea, I know... T.M.I but don't act like you don't toot! The point is, I need HELP! How the heck am I supposed to eat healthy if everything healthy gives me gas! I went online in search of the types of foods that cause bloating and gas and according to  Everyday Health here are specific foods that cause gas:
  • Milk and dairy products
  • Starchy foods like potatoes and pasta
  • Wheat and oat bran
  • Foods sweetened with artificial sweeteners, such as soda, gum, and hard candy
  • Bananas, peaches, apricots, pears, and raw apples
  • Raisins and melons
  • Prunes and prune juice
  • Colas and fruit drinks sweetened with fructose
  • Beans and lentils
  • Onions, green peppers, shallots, and scallions
  • Cauliflower, broccoli, Brussels sprouts, and peas
  • Corn, celery, artichokes, asparagus, and carrots

WTH!!!!!!! That's everything in the damn kitchen! So what is a sista supposed to do? Because being bloated and having gas IS NOT CUTE!

Blog??? Are you serious?...

Blogging huh? Never would I have thought that I would be sitting in my living room, computer in my lap, blogging about anything and everything. I never claimed to be the writer, nor did I think that I would have so much to say about any and every little thing. From my understanding, there is no right or wrong way to blog. So, with that information I will write...


We are 9 days into the New Year and I have a lot on my plate. First things first: Goals! Got em', wrote them out and looking forward to putting them in fruition. I'm not speaking of resolutions and things that I vow I won't do again like smoking, drinking, hooking up with that chic. Naw, I'm speaking of realistic goals. Starting a savings account that will actually mature, taking a class in the fall, creating a exercise regiment (that I actually plan on sticking with).  Yup, I did it and I'm excited to be able to say that I have started working on my list. Truth be told, I am lucky and grateful to have some amazing women and men in my life that I call friends.


Best believe I don't have many that take the title, but the ones I do have are show improved! Grade A baby! Without support from the people or person in your life, what else is there? I'm a hard ass at times (most times) but beneath the " I got this" exterior, there is a fragile woman who yearns for the acceptance and advocacy of my peers (don't get it twisted... Only a few). So, with that said I want to say thank you to a few old and new friends in my world (AB, ML, MC, LJ) and no I didn't forget anyone...lol

O.k., O.k... I had to edit this a little.In all reality, every person that has crossed my path has taught me something and I appreciate each and every one of you!

Thank you ;-)